Many of us chase a dream, a perfect picture of who we want to be or what we want to have. It’s a wonderful thing to have goals and strive for something better. But sometimes, that chase can leave us feeling down, like we're always falling short. It’s like looking at a mountain you want to climb. If you only focus on the peak, you might feel overwhelmed and discouraged by how far you still have to go. I remember feeling that way myself, always pushing, always wanting more, and never quite feeling like I was enough. It's a feeling I think a lot of us experience, especially those of us who are driven and ambitious. We set these high standards for ourselves, and then we beat ourselves up when we don’t meet them. It can be a cycle that's hard to break, leading to unhappiness and a feeling of being stuck. It's a truly difficult feeling when you are pushing yourself, and yet, feel as if you aren't making progress.
The book shares a powerful idea from a coach who has worked with many successful people. It’s a simple shift in perspective that can change how you feel about your progress. Instead of focusing on the gap between where you are and where you think you should be, start looking at how far you’ve already come. Think about who you were a year ago, five years ago, even just last month. What have you learned? What have you overcome? What have you accomplished? When you focus on the gain, on the progress you’ve made, you start to appreciate how much you’ve grown. It's a beautiful thing to recognize the steps you're taking, no matter how small they might seem. It’s like looking back at that mountain you’re climbing. Instead of just seeing the peak, you see the path you’ve already walked, the challenges you’ve conquered, and the incredible view you’ve earned along the way. It's a reminder that you are capable, resilient, and moving forward, even when it doesn’t always feel that way. This perspective is more than just a feel-good exercise; it’s a tool that helps you build confidence, motivation, and a sense of gratitude for your journey.
This simple change in focus – from "The Gap" to "The Gain" – can be transformative. It doesn’t mean abandoning your goals, but rather, it means celebrating your progress along the way. It’s about recognizing that growth is a process, not a destination. It’s about appreciating who you are right now, while still striving to become the best version of yourself. It's about understanding that every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory worth acknowledging. It’s a way to find joy in the journey, even when the path is challenging. And when you feel good, when you feel grateful, and when you feel like you’re making progress, you’re more likely to stick with it, to overcome obstacles, and to ultimately achieve your goals. It truly can be a life-changing shift in mindset.
I've seen so many people struggle with feeling like they’ve failed, even when they're doing their best. We set these big goals for ourselves, these wonderful dreams, and then we get caught up in how far we are from achieving them. It’s like wanting to build a beautiful house, but only focusing on the finished product and feeling discouraged by the piles of bricks and lumber that are still needed. I remember when my youngest daughter decided she wanted to learn to play the piano. She was so excited at first, but then she's gotten frustrated because she couldn’t play a complicated piece right away. She started to feel like she was never going to be good enough. I tried to explain to her that learning takes time, that every small practice session was a step forward, but it was hard for her to see it that way. It’s a feeling I'm familiar with, that sense of wanting to be somewhere else, of feeling like you’re not measuring up. It’s easy to get lost in the "what ifs" and the "should haves," and to forget all the progress you’ve already made. Sometimes we have these moments when we are so focused on what we haven't done, that we fail to see all that we have accomplished. It’s a common struggle, and it can be really hard to break free from that negative cycle. I think most of us get trapped in a loop where we are so busy trying to achieve our goals that we don’t take a moment to appreciate what we've already done.
This really encouraged me to shift my thinking. It's not about ignoring where you want to be, but about pausing to look at how far you’ve come. Think back to where you were even just a little while ago. What did you know then that you know now? What skills have you developed? What challenges have you overcome? It’s a really powerful thing to take that moment and truly acknowledge your growth. When I started my garden, I was so overwhelmed by the amount of work that needed to be done. I felt like I would never have a beautiful space. Then I started focusing on each small victory: the first seedling that sprouted, the first flower that bloomed. And it helped me stay motivated and enjoy the process. Sometimes the biggest changes come from recognizing the small steps we're already taking, and appreciating the journey itself. This isn’t about ignoring that there’s still work to be done, it’s about feeling proud of the progress you’ve already made. It is a simple, but powerful method for feeling positive and maintaining momentum.
Ultimately, it’s about finding joy in the present moment. It's about recognizing that every step, no matter how tiny, is a victory. It’s about being kind to yourself and celebrating your growth, even when it doesn’t feel like enough. It reminds us that growth isn't a straight line; it’s a winding path with ups and downs. And when you focus on the gains, on the steps you’re taking, you build confidence, you stay motivated, and you create a more positive and fulfilling journey. It's about finding contentment in who you are right now, while still striving to become the best version of yourself. That simple shift can be truly life-changing.
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It’s easy to feel discouraged when chasing dreams, like you're always falling short of where you want to be. This book offers a gentle reminder to pause and appreciate how far you've already come. It's about shifting your focus from what's missing to what you’ve gained. Think about who you were a year ago, or even last month – what have you learned, what have you overcome? It’s a simple shift in perspective that can be very powerful. Recognizing your progress builds confidence, keeps you motivated, and helps you feel good about the journey. It’s a kind and compassionate way to approach your goals and be kinder to yourself along the way. It’s a truly encouraging read that many can benefit from, and it’s a wonderful tool for anyone feeling stuck or discouraged.